Regionale Kennis van Uitvaarten • Funeral Assist (2024)

FAQs

How do you assist a funeral? ›

The best way you can help during the funeral is to attend and let the bereaved know you are there for them. During a funeral, the family will likely be fully absorbed in their grief. You can support them by offering tissues if people are crying, or a shoulder to lean on.

A great way to honor a loved one is to discuss memories you had with the person, talk about who they were as a person, and make sure to bring out what their personality was like.

If you don't know them very well, a simple 'I'm sorry for your loss' is fine, although it is often better if you can say something about the person who has died, for example 'I'm so sorry that you've lost your Dad (his name), he was a lovely man and I know we'll miss him very much.

Offer words about the deceased in terms of your own relationship with him/her. For example, "He was a wonderful mentor to me at work," or "She was there for me when I went through my divorce." For a dear friend in mourning, show signs of empathy. Say something to the effect of "When you're in pain, I'm in pain."

Here are some simple but essential steps to help you cope with funeral anxiety: Find someone to support you – Having a shoulder to cry on really does do the world of good. Try and sit with someone who you can share your feelings with and let them help support you through the day.

Direct cremation is a simple and affordable alternative to a funeral. The crematorium will collect the deceased and conduct a cremation immediately, with no service (note there are waiting periods in some states). Then they'll return the ashes to you, and you can choose how you'd like to memorialize them.

Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die. I have sent up my gladness on wings, to be lost in the blue of the sky. I have run and leaped with the rain, I have taken the wind to my breast.

What is the best last line of a eulogy? ›

If you're unsure how to end your eulogy, finish with a simple goodbye, or a thank you for the memories you shared. You might choose to use traditional phrases like 'rest in peace' or 'sleep well'. Or you can use something less formal, like a greeting or joke you used to share with the person who has died.

You could start with something simple like: “My name is __________ , the wife/husband/son/daughter/friend of ___________.” Another idea is to explain how you knew the deceased, or how you first met. However, you should take care to avoid focusing the eulogy on you.

Don't tell the family that they'll get over their grief with time. Don't tell a husband or wife that they'll meet someone else. Avoid mentioning any negative interactions that you had with the deceased. Never mention it if a family member isn't crying or doesn't seem sad.

Don't feel uncomfortable if you or the bereaved begins to cry. However, if you find yourself becoming extremely upset, it is kinder to excuse yourself to avoid increasing the strain on the family.

Talk about your own loss.

It can seem selfish to want to focus on your own past suffering while this person is fresh in their current grief and loss. At some point, there may be an appropriate time to talk about how you dealt with your grief, but at the funeral or shortly thereafter is not the time.

This contact could be a personal visit, telephone call, text message, sympathy card or flowers. Attend the funeral or memorial service if you can. They need to know that you care enough to support them through this difficult event. Offer your support and ask them how they would like you to support them.

Simply being present for those grieving a loss sends a message of support during their time of need. Never underestimate how much it means just being there for them. If you are unable to attend, a telephone call, a sympathy card, or any other form of communication assures those experiencing a loss that you care.

Offering your presence and support during meetings can be comforting and helpful. Assure your friend or relative that funeral directors are there to take care of the small details and ensure a dignified end-of-life service for the deceased. 4. Assist with writing texts and sharing funeral news.